You’re sitting at a coffee shop with someone you’re meeting for the first time.
How are you going to start the conversation? How will you keep things from getting awkward? How are you going to build the relationship?
The first meeting you have with someone — whether that’s at a business meeting, or in a social gathering, or even on a date — will play a significant role in the relationship that you will form.
So the first thing you need to do when meeting someone for the first time is to connect.
Here are 3 simple ways you can do that.
1. Smile often and mean it
It doesn’t get simpler than this. Smile often and mean it!
If a smile in a photo can have this effect, how much more a real one directed at a real person in real life?
If you want to connect with someone you’re meeting for the first time, smile at them and mean it.
2. Remember their name
“Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language,” says Dale Carnegie in his bestselling book, How to Win Friends and Influence People.
I know this isn’t always easy. Some names are simply hard to remember. Other names are so common they quickly slip our minds. For some of us, we just never developed the part of the brain responsible for remembering names!
But whatever the case is, make the extra effort to remember. Ask them to repeat it if you didn’t catch it the first time. Write it down on a piece of paper and memorize it. Repeat it to yourself over and over.
Because if you want to connect with someone you’re meeting for the first time, you must remember their name.
3. Focus the attention on them (not yourself)
People generally enjoy talking about themselves.
You see it all over social media. You’ll notice it when you’re talking to a friend. And if you really paid attention, you’ll see that it’s true even for yourself. You probably like talking about yourself, too (I know I do).
And I’m not saying this as though it’s a bad thing (Although sometimes, it can be). But I’m saying this because it’s something we need to understand about human behavior.
If you want to connect with people, especially those you’re meeting for the first time, talk about a topic that they would find interesting and have a lot to say about: themselves.
Here’s the gist…
Meeting for the first time can be pretty awkward. You’re not sure what to say. The silence goes on for too long. So the relationship goes off to a rocky start.
During these meetings, our #1 priority should be to connect.
Here are 3 ways you can do that:
- Smile at them and mean it.
- Remember their name.
- Focus the attention on them.
Apply these 3 things in every single one of your interactions with strangers and you will connect more effectively, build more meaningful relationships, and communicate better.
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